It’s my year to commit myself to my highest values and say YES to the things that fall in line with those.
Over the past few years, I have dug deeper and gotten a firm grasp on who I am, what my highest values are, and who I want to be. 2015 is my year to act through those values. It’s my year to consider, even with little things I spend my time on, “Is this action in line with my highest values? Is this a contribution to my biggest life possible?”
Years prior to 2014, I was a “yes” in a different way. I would sign up for all of the things asked of me and more, in search of acceptance and love. I was trying to prove myself as a “do-it-all” type of woman, to make up for my past mistakes. I had something I wanted to prove: that I was worthy of love, that I was a good mother, a good person. That I had changed.
I have nothing I need to prove any longer. I am proud of who I am and the life I lead. I now place little to no importance on the opinions and judgments of those outside of myself, my family, and my friends who are close enough to be considered my village.
In 2014, I began to say no. By considering the amount of time I had allotted and saying no to things I couldn’t include, I came to realize how often I was saying yes in times that weren’t of service to me, my family or my community. In saying no and setting boundaries, I saw how people without boundaries were unnerved by this. I saw their frustration, and their passive accusations that I wasn’t doing enough.
My top values are as follows:
And I’m committed to map out resolutions, strategies and tasks that will further my goals in these parts of my life. 2015 is when I say and emphatic YES! to my values, and that means being less reluctant to give a big fat NO to pressure to please others and go the extra mile in areas of my life that I deem unimportant or lacking.
In my next post, I’ll talk about New Year’s Resolutions. In the mean time, am I the only one who is SUPER excited to be back on a regular schedule when school begins again for the kiddos?!
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