My eight-year-old son is the creation I am most proud of, and becoming a mom at nineteen & figuring this all out as I go along is no doubt my greatest adventure of all.
When I studied writing, I learned with the rest to “write what I know.” This is why this is not, nor could it ever be a Mommy Blog. Read: I have no idea what I’m doing. Half of what I know about raising a family I learned from twentieth century sitcoms like Family Matters, Full House and The Brady Bunch. No lie.
Sometimes my husband asks, “Why do you bake him cookies for after school? That’s a dessert, not a snack.” And well, that’s why. Leave it to June Cleaver. I cringe when people tell me I’m a good mom, because it invalidates my constant negative self talk and second guessing myself. What do they know? They haven’t seen me loose my temper!
That being said, as I meet more children that are my son’s age, I find that he’s pretty darn creative. When he’s not working on his studies or doing his household chores, he’s making something, no doubt.
Sometimes people ask me how I pull him away from video games long enough to make things and how he’s so creative. I don’t think this is something that’s hardwired, and there’s a few things that I’ve done to facilitate his artistic attempts.
Consistently make values clear
I’ve always been pretty frugal when it comes to buying toys, and when I did, I made sure it was something old fashioned and open-ended. Blocks and books at infancy, supervised crayon and paper during toddler hood, and a lot of imaginative play. When he got introduced to cable TV at three and he began running to me in the other room saying, “Come wook! I need dis!” I began an unending reinforcement:
“Those commercials are trying to trick you. Their job is to tell you that you need it and take your money.” I showed him examples of cartoon advertising at grocery stores, and how things in Scooby-Doo shapes are more expensive. We’d still get them at times, but never without a talk about those tricky advertisers.
There are some really simple items for sale, and when my little guy would ask for something, I’d first consider if it was a toy we could make ourselves. “Oh, you don’t need to buy that! We can make that!” Sometimes we’d follow through, and other times we forgot and moved on. But I started reinforcing that method of thought.
Now that he’s older, I’ve told him about how children in undeveloped countries are usually the ones making the licensed toys that he sees advertised on YouTube videos. “They’re younger than you and it’s their job to make these every day! You can make it, too!”
It’s a sad truth, and some may think I shouldn’t expose him to that. But I think people should have enough information to make educated choices as soon as they can.
Set an example
Model a creative attitude. If I always told him these things about the things he wanted and never followed through with making our own version or made things of my own, he’d think I was the one doing the tricking. Be consistent with your messaging!
Narrow down the options
The most difficult thing about being a parent–okay, being a human these days are the incessant distractions. Most parents are stumped how they can ever peel their children away from their iPads. “It’s all they ever want to do!” they lament.
It’s simple: don’t make screen time a choice. Have firm times that they’re not allowed to look at screens, but are able to choose to do anything else with their time. Unless a car ride is over an hour, there’s no need for a screen! School nights are for learning! And the like.
“Bored” was was taught to be a cuss word in my house, so he doesn’t dare utter it. But when I was growing up, my best friend was a super talented artist. When I met her two cousins, they were awesome, too, and I made a comment to her. She responded, “Whenever we’d tell Gramma we were bored, no matter what, she’d always give us some paper and a pen. We’d all have clipboards in the backseat of her car.”
I always remembered that, and though I don’t make drawing the only choice or force it upon him, it’s become his go-to way of spending his time.
Options that are always open:
- Making clay figurines (in a designated space, to keep messes at a minimum)
- Drawing (We recently bought a Rocketbook Wave with Fusion Pens to lessen his paper use)
- Mixed media (For years he just kept tying and taping stuff together. I called it Dada, but it was destructive at times.)
- Outdoor play (weather permitting, obvi)
- All the toys in his room that he’s aquired as gifts (he almost never chooses this!)
Praise, praise, praise!
For the last six weeks, I’ve been following the direction of Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way (highly recommended!). It’s a workbook for people who are creatively blocked. In it, she discusses how crucial it is for an artist, even as an adult, to be nurtured. Creative work is such a vulnerable act and without encouragement, the beginner never musters up the guts to become an expert.
Always be offering alternatives
Being a beginner artist is so frustrating. I have a quote from Ira Glass on my desktop that refers to this:
It’s a fight to become better and better, and sometimes it’ll anger you. I make sure to always reassure that there are solutions and to quote my second grade art teacher: “There are no mistakes in art.”
Things my son has been making lately:
- This year’s Valentines were Teen Titan themed hearts for the kids and his two teachers received Wonder Woman and Scarlet Witch. He used the same technique as last year’s emoji heart valentines. (I forgot to take good photos of them before sending them off, so I impressed him with my nominal Photoshop skills by making them a little more “super.”)
- Here are some of his drawings
- Using his Rocketbook Wave to quickly digitize one of his drawings, I showed him how easy it can be to add color to his drawings the same way that comic book artists do on Photoshop. I’d show him a simple action, and he would replicate it.
- He’s still working on learning new chords to his guitar.
- He’s developed his personal style of dressing.
I can hardly deal with the cute pictures he let me take of him for Valentine’s day
- Here’s one of his many clay sculptures. It’s baked, so now he can play with it like any other action figure (just a little more carefully)
- This weekend, he’s starting a YouTube channel to share his art and other interests with our friends and family as he grows up. Subscribe to keep up with what he’s up to!
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5 thoughts on “Crafting a Creative Kid: How to Raise an Artist”
Creativity and exploration are so important to encourage during childhood when it seems to come naturally to most children (in the right environment). Nice work, mama…even if you do lose your temper every once in a while! 😉 (don’t we all) lol
Thank you! All good moms feel relentless guilt…right? lol!
Thanks for commenting on my coasters (: your son is so cute! I love your writing style. Where did you study writing?
Thank you! I studied Communication with a focus on PR writing at University of Houston 🙂